You Think it was hard to stay calm last time????

[Leines]

I Laugh when people say they cant believe im staying calm.. when someone wrongs me online..... well how would you react to this in person stuff....

small preface without too many personal stuff..

Dating a girl for 8 months now, knew her for long time.. she has daughter... dad still in picture.... lots of court etc, visitation etc.. ok from my perspective dude is a douche bag but i keep that to myself outta respect for the 5yr old.... he is late, doesnt have a car, etc.... he calls this morning telling us that he cant come get her he locked the keys in the running car ( i gotta add that i know the car, since i work for an auto advertising company...and i know for a fact that you cant lock the keys in a running car anymore its a feature)..and that she needs to be dropped off at his house at 8... its actually his responsibility to come pick her up... anyway... we dont work till 9 and live outside of town... so said we will just drop her off at school, since he basically just takes her to school..... anyway... girlfriend leaves... i go to work... I get a call from her in tears... he was waiting for them at the school...acosted my girlfriend while his daughter was only a few feet away inside the school gate... in front of other parents etc... basically telling her she is a bad mother, screaming at her that she is a fat biotch and she needs to go to the gym more ( which is laughable shes a tiny little girl) and when she went to leave he stood behind her car and wouldnt let her leave.... until she said she was gonna call the police.....then he jumped into the car with locked keys and took off... i dont think he even said hello to his daughter when they got to the school...

So he has to come here tonight to pick up his daughter... and i think ill be the person whom greets him at the door... as id like to have a word or two with him without anyone else around....


So how would you react to him tonight???

 

[Triple_B]

when he opens the door, pound him with ur fist in his face really effing hard

 

[blasterracer817]

personally man if the gf wasnt aroun id open the door and deck em, the 17 years ive been here eahrt my mom or aunt would be beat almost ot death right infront of me my mom was in the hospitle for passing out cuz her bf hit her so hard so i viw saying shiz like that as fing bad and on top of that you dont do that crap infront of your child EVER idk why people are such aholes, my cuz had the same thing happen her she left he ex carl like a year later she dropped her child off at skool and car beat the livin crap outa her and stole her car which is now mine, and drove to the bar, well ashleys bf at the time beat the crap outa him thencarl took the car again ashley found him and beat him with a bball bat and had to be drug off him by the cops, so theres a few options i guess

 

[wolf1]

i have been where you are, first thing to remember is, the daughter is more important than your anger and her hurt.

i know this sounds flat, because most of us (myself included) would meet him as he got out of his car and teach him some respect.

meet him at the door tell him that you would expect a responsible parent to act better around his child and the lady he created a child with.

and remind him that his hatred for his ex should not be bigger than the love he has for his daughter.

make him feel like a whipped pup, if he gets violent then the laws are there to help, call the cops and have them deal with him.

video all you can, and the next time he acts this way make sure your gf does call the police and make a full report.

 

[Whitty21]

put him up on charges, that'l keep him away from the kid, knocking him in the face wont help the situation, but if u need a hand i am only 30 minutes away lolol

 

[89blasty]

kick his ass. punch em in the face then go from there

 

[blasterdemon7]

Rite after I ment what is now my wife,I was at here house when her ex boyfriend came knocking on the door.I opened the door and punched rite between the eyes and knocked his ass out.never came back around.Even moved out of state two weeks later.

 

[xKroniK13x]

Wow man... that's really hard to tell... you should probably be the bigger man and give him a couple words, though with trash like that generally it's a waste of air. If no one was around and no cameras were around, I'd have a hard time not knocking him out... good luck. Hope he learns his lesson, one way or another. People are so mucked up...

 

[2g00d4u]

I can't stand people like that. We're talking about someone that needs a serious punch in the teeth and maybe a few banged up ribs. People like that don't understand simple logic.

 

[sheeblast]

best to just exchange words. you punching him will not solve anything but make things worse your your gf.

 

[Leines]

I hear each and every one of you...... but i know that if im going to be a part of this whole thing... i cant be knocking him out like george st.pierre everytime hes a douche bag... cause the truth is.. hes a douche bag.... but like wolf said... you also gotta let him know that he cant act that way and get away with it.... I think ill just meet him on the deck, before he gets to the door.. and just tell him that he may like to treat his girlfriends with disrespect... but im not gonna allow him to disrespect her, especially infront of other people, his child and other children... ive put up with the disrespectful text messages.. because he never says anything in person when im around..... but this time be basically met her at the school knowing i wouldnt be there so he could try to control her... which to me needs to be addressed right away.....

Its not outta the question for her to get a restraining order against him, and then when he comes here he will just have to deal with me directly from now on....

 

[xKroniK13x]

I hear each and every one of you...... but i know that if im going to be a part of this whole thing... i cant be knocking him out like george st.pierre everytime hes a douche bag... cause the truth is.. hes a douche bag.... but like wolf said... you also gotta let him know that he cant act that way and get away with it.... I think ill just meet him on the deck, before he gets to the door.. and just tell him that he may like to treat his girlfriends with disrespect... but im not gonna allow him to disrespect her, especially infront of other people, his child and other children... ive put up with the disrespectful text messages.. because he never says anything in person when im around..... but this time be basically met her at the school knowing i wouldnt be there so he could try to control her... which to me needs to be addressed right away.....

Its not outta the question for her to get a restraining order against him, and then when he comes here he will just have to deal with me directly from now on....

I'd give him your warning and next time make legal procedures.

 

[Awk08]

this happens to some extent in every break-up, needs to run it's course and usually goes away
i'm gonna have to say just a stearn warning is needed this time, something to the effect of....... " look bro, your shananigans with "my" 'ol lady is causing some tension around here, i'm gonna expect this to not happen again, or there's gonna be serious consequences"
then if he does it again, thats blatantly disrespecting you and the warning he was givin, which will require a serious beat down

but by the sounds of him, he'll understand "sign language" better than a verbal warning

 

[xKroniK13x]

this happens to some extent in every break-up, needs to run it's course and usually goes away
i'm gonna have to say just a stearn warning is needed this time, something to the effect of....... " look bro, your shananigans with "my" 'ol lady is causing some tension around here, i'm gonna expect this to not happen again, or there's gonna be serious consequences"
then if he does it again, thats blatantly disrespecting you and the warning he was givin, which will require a serious beat down

but by the sounds of him, he'll understand "sign language" better than a verbal warning

I'm with you here. Sometimes trash like this needs a physical lesson or they will never learn, but let it be known they won't get away with it next time.

 

[lasxgames]

have to contact police and file a report or they will not believe you.. documentation is key here.. Keep a calendar just for this reason and write everything down good and bad. keep your cool and he will screw it up for himself. Get witness to what happens also.

 

[Awk08]

second time it happens, after the stearn warning will require "no witnesses" in my world, i would get zero satisfaction out of numerous court dates, missed work, prolly some cash to file paperwork, and he'll only get a slap on the wrist anyway.
nose cartilidge crushing is very satisfying !!!!!!!

 

[lasxgames]

beat downs are nice but if still in court for custody this will f things up for him and can add a restraining order if you have witnesses. He's trying to get an reaction and if you both, just laugh it off and document it, it would do allot of mental damage to him and his cause

 

[Leines]

Well its over and done with... i was waiting for him on the deck doing some shovelling...

I told him we needed to have a word..and he just walked right by me like i didnt exist... went to the door and knocked... when i told him that they werent gonna answer and we needed to have a conversation... he told me to stay outta his business... i told him that i was trying to stay out of the custody and court stuff (which is over btw) but i wasnt going to just let him disrespect my girlfriend like that.... I said i dont care if thats how he treated her when they were together, prolly the reason they arent anymore, or if thats how he treats his new girlfriend... but its not gonna happened from this day forward... he told me to stay outta his business and go get his children or he was calling the cops.... to which i replied that we are considering a restraining order against him... and basically i started into him about being a little man and i thought he was bigger then to acost her at the school while people were around... told him that i know he is a loser but i thought he was bigger then that... he told me to stay outta his business... then i finally told him... listen... this family here.. is my business..and as long as your being an idiot about it.. .your my business.... now im trying to be nice for the sake of the kid, but i can make your life very hard... I told him... im being then him... i have more money then him, and i have more power then you..and if you think for a second that i wont get involved and make things very hard for him..then he has another thing coming.... he told me to do whatever i want.. cause hes a douche bag that doesnt even own a car... how can you sink someone thats not even trying to float???

Anyway he left and i hope he at least thinks twice about talking down to her.. if not.. warning two will be a cruiser at his door...
warning three will be me tracking him down on a saturday night of drinking and leaving him half dead in a snowbank with no memory of how he got there...

glad i got that out...

Thanks forum...

 

[Drifz1]

lol hes such a fag reps for that man

 

[2g00d4u]

The best way to start is to tell him how it is and show you won't be played. You did a good job man.